Saturday, November 08, 2008

A Little Bit of Meta for the Weekend

When I started this blog I wanted to write regularly, and I wanted to make friends, and I did both those things. Of course, I noticed that other people were doing more than that: getting their name out there, doing professional networking, even making real money. I've actually done a very small tiny bit of that, under my real name [and if you don't know about my other sites and want to, email me & I'll send you the links], and a couple of years ago, in anticipation of moving and maybe having more writing time and less regular income, I put up a BlogHerAds link on this site (over to the left, there).

The ad's still there, and the BlogHerAds money, in the low two digits and mostly donated back out to whatever cause seems to need it, comes in a couple times a year. But this personal blog has never really hit the big time (partly due to my own lack of focused attention), and over the years it's become a quiet little backwater populated--as far as I can tell--by my friends and family and maybe a few serendipitous lurkers.

Actually I'm not entirely sure who reads, unless they tell me, because until last week I hadn't checked my statcounter for months.

Then, last Monday, a couple of major players linked to a post I wrote on this site, just as I was dusting off the keyboard to post every day in November for NoBloPoMo, and at a time when virtually everyone in the blogosphere was reading and surfing around online even more than usual. And in one day, more people viewed this site than in all of September and October added up together, maybe longer. The most readers I've ever had in one day, by a long ways.

I know because I couldn't resist checking my stats after the comments started coming in (and after I'd remembered my statcounter password). And while readership has dropped way off from the level of that one staggering day, some people have been coming back to check in, and new readers are still trickling in from the Daily Dish and Cosmic Variance.

So, this post is all by way of a very long-winded prologue to my own one-site De-Lurking Day request: Who are you, and where did you come from?

You can be anonymous if you want, and I've turned off comment verification captchas for today so as to minimize the hassle. But I'd love it if you'd comment and let me know.

30 Comments:

Blogger jo(e) said...

I don't comment here very often so I'd like to claim lurker status.

I found you through Phantom Scribbler.

12:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Came here after Andrew Sullivan linked to your post.
Looked a bit at the archives, and was interested enough to keep coming back.

Stats - a straight male, slightly less than 30.

12:56 PM  
Anonymous queermom said...

hi,
i'd say i'm a lurker too...i have no idea how i found you. i'm a queer single mom with a 5 yr old son, who was born into a lesbo-nuclear family...but now we're not together.

2:34 PM  
Blogger Pamelamama said...

Hi! You know I'm a regular reader -- I think you got so popular because I linked your post on my facebook. ;)

4:26 PM  
Blogger dynaknit said...

Hmmm... my sister sent me a link to you; are you connected to someone in Mississippi? anyway... I like to read funny blogs, so here I am.

4:48 PM  
OpenID feralgeographer said...

i think i was looking up queer parenting blogs when i first stumbled in here... at any rate, i've been reading regularly for the past year. i had a funny moment of planning to de-lurk, when you were looking for tenants and i was hoping to move to van for grad school @ UBC. sadly, that fell through. anyway, if you ever come to the island, please come over for tea!

7:43 PM  
Blogger susan said...

You know me! I can't even remember how I first found you, to tell you the truth, but I'm sure glad I did.

8:06 PM  
Anonymous Amy said...

I'm a regular reader of Milkbreath & Me, and now I've added yours to my reading list too.

8:40 PM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

I'm an 18 year old lesbian and I've been a reader for quite a while. I've never commented. I can't remember how I found you, but I've been enjoying your blog since.

12:37 AM  
Blogger mBrown said...

I'm in Phoenix, AZ and found you via Cosmic Variance...though I have no idea how I started on that site. I was completely touched by your post about Prop 8...and promptly forwared it to many of my friends.

1:42 AM  
Blogger traveler one said...

I've been following you for a long long time now! Got you on my google reader so I don't miss a thing. BTW, I'm an expat living in Albania!

2:28 AM  
Blogger Big Poppa said...

My name is Aaron, I'm married with a daughter on the wat and I found your blog through Crunch Granola, another blog that I read

11:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I check in around once a month for years now. I also follow your mom. Can't remember how I first got here.

That Girl

6:25 PM  
Anonymous MonkeyPants said...

I read here! But you know that.

6:41 PM  
Anonymous Amy said...

Hey elswhere -- I found you somehow, and then figured out that I knew you from that fancy college we went to back in the late eighties (oh what a time! Death to the patriarchy, and all that...)and kept reading for all the lesbo-nuclear multi-national family love! Keep blogging please, and send me your other links!

6:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think I found your blog by way of Ellen Kushner, whose books I love. I like the way you write about your life, and followed your move to Canada with interest, as I live in the next province over (Alberta). I check in about once a month or so.

Stats: straight, partnered, old enough to have heard all that 80s music the first time around.

Cath

5:04 AM  
Anonymous Thorn said...

I think I found you ages ago either through academic blogs or Rachel H's, because I know and read her non-pseudonymously. (The internet is weird.)

I live in the US Midwest, where my partner and I are working to adopt a child or children from our state's foster care system. Now that I'm getting closer to parenting myself, I really pay attention to that side of things.

Your marriage post was the first to really make me cry. Thank you.

6:38 AM  
Anonymous rachel said...

I believe these comments demonstrate definitively that I am more popular than Andrew Sullivan. And I read your blog because I know you... or do I know you because I read your blog? Chicken, egg, chicken... no, egg... no, CHICKEN! Chicken for sure. Or possibly egg.

8:47 AM  
Blogger Hugh said...

Els, I check your blog daily, it is the only one I regularly read. I was so glad that your gay marriage post (which as you know I forwarded to my friends) hit the big time via Andrew Sullivan. I also send many of your parenting posts to my subdivision mania friends (loved the one about allowing your daughter to go to school in a horrendous outfit). Much love, Alice.

9:03 AM  
Blogger parodie said...

I'm not sure how I found you - the pixie party, I think - but I follow you regularly (through google reader); I was curious to hear your story of moving to Canada, and how it went for you. As a Canadian I am intrigued by stories of Americans moving here...

9:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i don't remember when or how I found you. I'm in Germany and I have you on my google reader.

11:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i don't remember when or how I found you. I'm in Germany and I have you on my google reader.

11:53 AM  
OpenID aresgee said...

i can't remember when i found you...but i'm nearly certain i found you thru my old camp friend Robin's popular blog, The Other Mother.

i have read you for a very long time. even read your mom's blog every so often!

i'm a jewish partnered lesbian mama of two down here in Austin, TX.

2:51 PM  
Blogger Meghan said...

I'm Meghan from wifestale, and I was tickled pink that you left me a comment last week. I wish I could remember how I found your blog, but I have been reading since before the move to Canada. I've left comments here and there before, but I have always enjoyed what you have to say and the way you say it. I also read your mother's blog regularly and I link to you both on my blog.

3:29 PM  
Blogger Tall Kate said...

I'm here via Phantom, but I'm sure you know that already. I am LOVING your insights and your more regular posting, even if I don't manage to read every day.

7:13 AM  
Blogger Nilima said...

And I came here because your mom said to! :) I love what I've read so far. Thanks for being refreshingly non-paranoid and non-ranty about assorted issues. I'd sworn off blogs after way too many over-the-top ones.

It's nice to see the possibility of civil discourse in our World 2.0.

11:59 AM  
Blogger Of Life, Education, E-bay, Travel & Books said...

I can't remember how I first found you but I'm still here and still reading my kids that great Boy/ Girl fairytale you blogged about once.
I also see that you and I are the soon to be proud owners of the L Word Season 5!

7:06 PM  
Blogger Jennifer A. said...

I think I found you through BlogHer, I just don't get here as much as I used to.
Married, two kids, from Midwest, work in insurance.

8:32 PM  
Blogger cmc said...

I found your blog by typing "lesbian moms" into google. You could say I was looking for a role model. I read your post about negotiating mother's day and thought you were a good one to keep checking in on.

I'm 27, living with my girlfriend and going to medical school in the Midwest.

2:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm pretty sure I got here through a link on Cosmic Variance.

I really like your writing. Can't think what else to say right now.

1:32 PM  

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